I've been told that Gaetan and I have a unique marriage. In a good way. :) While talking with a friend she said, "things are just different for you and Gaetan." And I got to thinking about why that might be. First and foremost I know our marriage is built on a relationship with Jesus. After that, then we can start to get to know eachother more and learn what it really means to love somebody else. But after this past time of dealing with his family, I realized that a huge part of why our marriage works so well is because we communicate with each other. I mean, don't have to tell each other each tiny little thing (i think that we would drive each other nuts)... but when I say communicate I don't mean just by talking. Yes, talking is a big part of it. I know I've said before, about parenting, that we need to make sure that we are always on the same page, and that is done by talking and being with each other. And LISTENING when the other person is talking. Sometimes our communicating isn't even talking at all but just being. This way we always know what the other person is feeling, thinking, you name it, and that makes things so much easier.
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Us in the beginning... |
I grew up with a Mom that didn't beat around the bush. Some would say that she was abrasive... I think that she's just telling it like it is. I'm sure that there were times I wished she would've sugar coated it a little more, but I can't tell you how appreciative I am of her honesty. I can't stand people who play games. Really, I don't have time for it. If you say you are OK then I'm going to assume you're OK. If you want to have something specific to eat, or don't really want to do that activity you better frickin' tell me, because as ninja like as I am, I can't read your mind. And I love that I know when Gaetan says he doesn't care, he really doesn't care. I know it sounds simple (and really it is) but for some reason some people just can't do it. Maybe it's a maturity thing? I don't know... but all I know is I like when people are straight with me, so I will be straight with them.
I feel like things like this is what makes things smoother. Yes, we will have our crabby days. Yes, I get hungry and a little sleep deprived (a bad combo indeed), but because there is that communication, there is understanding. And as situations arise, or things change then we talk about them and it's wonderful. We don't have to talk for hours (although sometimes we can!) but just talking, without distraction, is key and wonderful.
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We love you Papa! |
So thank you dear husband for not wanting to play games. For being real with me. For listening. For respecting. For everything you do for this family. And most of all, thank you for guiding this family in a God-like manor, so I don't have to worry about your motivations. You are a continuous blessing to this family, and I hope that you know that. We are proud of you and we love you very much.
JVG
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