Now, one of the things (among many) that I love about my husband is his ability to tell you like it is. As I mentioned before he and Wilfreda had it out over the phone do to their trying to be sneaky but got caught.
It was definitely a conversation that was a long time coming, but I just didn't think that it would happen when it did. And bless his heart, he isn't afraid to go there with some people. At first she got defensive, naturally, but after a little bit she just listened. It seems that we have these serious conversations with her about twice a year, because she falls back into her old same habits.
She would tell you that her main problem is that she doesn't get to see the kids enough, and that we don't leave them alone with her. And, the interesting part is, Gaetan and I had just discussed what it is that she does that makes us so uncomfortable about having her around them for long periods of time. And... apparently, he addressed every single one of those points with her.
At the end of the talk, I think she had a better understanding of where we were coming from... and the main part of it is, SHE LISTENED. I'm not sure how much of it really sank in, or is gonna stick, but at least she listened this time. Most of the time when we address things with her she just kinda looks like she glazes over and says, "anyways..." and moves on like nothing happened...
So, here is to hoping that this sticks and we won't have to have this conversation again for a long time... although, I feel like it's pretty backwards that we are the ones who have to explain to her what is appropriate, and what is not... oh well.
JVG
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