I always look forward to breaks because Gaetan gets to be home for so long and I know that the kids love it. But the past 2 weeks have been pretty rough. I wasn't sure why and I know that we were both feeling it... and to add to it the kids have been sick/cutting teeth so they haven't been on their best behavior. I was thinking, there is no way that I can survive the rest of break if it's going to be like this! But today we had a much needed talk when the kids were down for a nap.
There have just been little things that I've been disappointed about (nothing major) but they had been building up. I was REALLY looking forward to getting a treadmill for Christmas, so Ingrid bought me one but it was manual one. I tried using it last night (and this morning) and it was horrible. I looked online last night after it was so difficult to use and they pretty much say that you can only walk on it... annoying. So, I thought that I was going to be able to start seriously training and I wasn't able too. The hard thing is running is usually my 'me time' and I haven't had that in a couple of weeks. Either the weather has been too icy, I've been sick or there just wasn't enough time. We thought that the treadmill would be the answer because then I could do it while the kids slept and I wouldn't have to leave the house, and gym memberships can be SO expensive. But I think that we are going to have to get one for the next few months while there is snow on the ground. Stinky.
And because Ingrid got me the treadmill she accidentally had it shipped to her house instead of our place, so she brought it over yesterday, which was really nice. However, every time she comes for a visit it's usually a big production number. Mainly because it always starts off so badly. For some reason, she can't be on time to save her life. And honestly, I think it's just rude. Obviously, as a mother of 2 small children, I know that things up come at the last minute and there's nothing you can do about it... so I can cut people slack. However, I think of the couple years I've known her she's been on time ONCE. AND she only has herself to get ready. I just don't understand that. I think that she doesn't value our time and she just thinks that she can come whenever she wants. Its only hard when we are specifically skipping nap time or something to wait for her, and then she's so late that they could've gotten a nap in. Well, we've learned from that and she just comes after nap time now... but still. I don't think that its unreasonable to ask her to just tell us that she's going to be late too. As long as we know that she's going to be here at a different time then we can plan accordingly... but we usually end up texting/calling her 15-20 minutes after we should've gotten a text from her asking her how things are going and her telling us that she's not even left her place yet. and sometimes she just gets snippy with us about it too... really?! This last time she didn't tell us that Mike was coming, which is totally great that he came for a visit, but it would've just been nice to know. She texted and was like, "make sure everybody is up and ready to go when we get there..." we didn't know if she had something specific planned or anything. So when we ask her she doesn't reply, because we know that if her plan doesn't go through the way she wants she'll pout. Let me remind you, its a plan that nobody knew about except her. The real kicker is that Zoe knew that Mike was coming and that they were running late. Why does Zoe know before the people who she is actually coming to visit know?! I don't know. We asked her why she doesn't answer her phone even when she had 2 seconds before, and she told us that she doesn't reply because she thinks we're not going to like her answer. She admits that she DELIBERATELY ignores it because she thinks that we're going to be mad. I don't know how long it's going to take for her to understand that we would rather know and that communication would fix a lot of this crap.
Anyways, the day after her visit is usually a day of recovery for everybody. Tristan even understands that her behavior is unacceptable... because he's told us before. So to add onto whatever was going on between me and Gaetan we had to get through this too.
BUT we did get through it and things are much much MUCH better. It's amazing what a little communication will do. So, I am happy to report that things are going a TON more smoothly and break is looking awesome. I love that we can be so honest with each other even when the things that we have to get out aren't the nicest. But, of course, we say them in a nice way ;)
So, here's to the rest of break. :)
JVG
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